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ABOUT US
Every story begins with a single voice, and Tookie's Voice began with one powerful vision: to ensure that survivors of domestic violence are heard, supported, and never forgotten. We believe deeply in our responsibility to create lasting change in our communities, turning pain into purpose and hope into action.
Since 2021, we've walked alongside survivors in Alabama, North Carolina, Indiana and Illinois, providing support, resources, and most importantly, a promise that their stories matter. Through our various initiatives, we've created spaces where healing can begin and where strength can be rediscovered.
There's a profound truth in the saying that we die twice – first when we take our last breath, and again when our name is spoken for the final time. At Tookie's Voice, we stand as guardians of memory and hope, ensuring that every person affected by domestic violence has their story honored, their life celebrated, and their legacy preserved. Through our work, these precious lives will continue to inspire change and light the way forward for others.
Together, we're not just making a difference – we're creating a legacy of healing, remembrance, and transformation.
WHAT WE DO
At Tookie's Voice, we understand that domestic violence casts long shadows across our communities, affecting countless lives each day. We're committed to bringing light to these shadows through education, support, and life-changing resources that empower survivors to reclaim their stories and rebuild their lives.
Our signature programs, "Women on the Run" and "An Empty Plate at the Table," reach beyond traditional boundaries to create real, lasting change. These initiatives don't just offer help – they provide hope, understanding, and a path forward for those seeking safety and healing. Each program represents our unwavering commitment to stand with survivors at every step of their journey
Women on the Run" is more than a project – it's a lifeline of hope and transformation. We walk beside survivors on their journey to safety, helping them rediscover their strength and embrace their full, radiant potential.
Every toolkit we provide through generous donations becomes a tangible symbol of hope – a promise that no one has to face their journey alone. These vital resources aren't just supplies; they're stepping stones to a new beginning, carefully packed with both practical necessities and the message that someone cares, someone believes in them, and someone is ready to help them rebuild their An Empty Plate at the Table" speaks to the profound absence left behind when domestic violence claims a precious life. Each empty place setting tells a story – of dreams unlived, of voices silenced too soon, and of families forever changed. These empty plates serve as both a memorial and a call to action, reminding us that every life lost to domestic violence leaves an irreplaceable void in our communities and our hearts.
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Domestic Violence ~ Intimate Partner Violence {IPV}
Power & Control
Domestic violence weaves a complex and often invisible web of control, reaching across all walks of life. It knows no boundaries - occurring in every community, affecting people of all backgrounds, races, ages, genders, religions, education levels, and economic circumstances.
The pain it causes is universal, yet each survivor's experience is deeply personal.
What makes domestic violence particularly devastating is its subtle beginnings. Often, relationships that become abusive start with what appears to be intense love and devotion.
The Power and Control Wheel illustrates the intricate patterns of abuse that can develop:
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Emotional manipulation and isolation
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Financial control and dependency
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Intimidation and threats
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Minimizing and denying the abuse
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Using children or loved ones as leverage
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Asserting male privilege or domination
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Using coercion and blame
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Maintaining control through fear
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Warning Signs of Abuse/Red Flags
>Actual or threats of physical violence.
>Insulting, demeaning, or shaming you, especially in front of others.
>Actual or threats of sexual violence, emotional or psychological abuse.
>Stalking: excessive calls/texts/emails, monitoring daily activities, using technology to track a person's location.
>Needing to know your whereabouts at all times.
>Preventing or discouraging you from spending time with friends, family members, or peers.
>Showing extreme jealousy of your friends or time spend away from them.
>Damaging your belongings, including throwing objects, punching walls, vandalizing your vehicle, or kicking doors.
>Financial abuse-controlling finances in the household without discussion, including taking your money or refusing to provide money for necessary expenses. (e.g., withholding money, ruining credit, stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job).
>Telling you that you never do anything right. Intimidating you thought threatening looks or actions.
>Pressuring you to have sex or perform sexual acts or impregnating an individual.​
>Cheating on you to intentional hurt you and threatening to cheat against suggest that they are "better" than you.
THE EVOLUTION OF TOOKIE'S VOICE: Create a Safety Plan
SAFETY is essential to remember when thinking about leaving an abusive situation. Listed below are a few tips.
>Document the incidents (notes/photos).
>Identify a list of individuals to contact and a safe place to go.
>Establish a code "word" or "symbol" to let individuals know when you're in need of help.
>Keep a bag packed with essential papers (social security card(s), births certificate(s), driver license or state identification card, bank information.
>If you have an order of protection, make copies and carry one with you at all times.
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